This post is going to be a little bit different than some of my others, because it's solely based on my observations. No links to articles or anything like that. I know, you like it when I do something that's based on source material, but give this a try guys!
Since Valentines' day is near, let's talk about geeky couples. Who's the Zoe to your Wash, the Zelda to your Link, the Cleric to your Fighter, the Mario to your Peach?
I find that relationship to be a weird one myself, but anyway you get the point. Some of you out there are lucky like me and have a nerdy person to love. Some of you are hunting down someone, and some of you are happy to fool around with any attractive female in the cosmos like our beloved Captain Kirk. Whatever your position may be in life, we all know there are nerd couples out there, but there's an interesting pattern that I have noticed.
I recently started thinking about it with one of my housemates here at school. She has a boyfriend who's a big nerd. He taught my housemate how to play Magic the Gathering, which, for those of you who don't know, a game that is made of crack. At least for a lot of my guy friends, collecting cards is a life passion. I've had a couple exes who were into it, and tried to get me into it. My housemate was never really into it before but now she's playing it with him a lot. And then I started thinking about other nerd couples I know, and the pattern started to arise...
Why is it that it's the guy introducing the girl into something geeky 9 times out of 10?
Boyfriends are more likely to be the primary nerd in the relationship, passing on the info to the girlfriend who, either having the info thrust upon them or actually interested in the subject at hand, will try their best to pick up why the nerd hobby is so important. Rarely do you get instances where the girl is showing the guy something nerdy. And even if they are into something nerdy, it's usually because of another male influence. I have friend who introduced her boyfriend to Star Wars, but she got into it because of her previous boyfriend. I have friends who got into stuff because of their brothers or fathers. Rarely do I hear someone, ANYONE say "my girlfriend/mom/sister/gal pal got me into [insert nerd hobby here]"
Now I know there are girls who got into stuff without a male influence. My mom is the reason I'm so nerdy, and a good friend of mine from high school introduced me to Dungeons and Dragons (although, going back to my point, her dad was into it and introduced her to it). My friend who does the
Uncharted 2 blog got into a lot of this nerd stuff herself, especially her love of comic books. But I find that this is not the norm. Even I didn't get into Starcraft until the Boyfriend essentially thrusted it upon me. Oh wait, I mean the game, he thrusted the game... oh goddamn it.
Why is it that girls are usually "pulled" into the fandoms? Why aren't they attracted to it themselves? That I have no theory on. I just find it interesting that this is the current pattern. over time I think it will become more even.
There are a couple exceptions to the rule: literature, web comics and anime/manga. Those are some things that girls easily dig into on their own without a male influence. Especially anime, with their
cat girls. Ugh.
I want to know what you guys think. Are my observations correct, or am I totally out of the loop on this one?